Friday, November 27, 2009

36w1d- Lots&Lotsa stuff.

Oh my. Lots to update on :)

Pregnancy/Baby Stuff
I had gone into L&D on Monday because M wasn't moving. She ended up being fine but I was contracting quite frequently. I really, really, REALLY love my midwives. A few of them make me want to bite the bullet and just do the whole hospital thing- but I can't. Anyways, this particular midwife decided against administering IV fluids and just let me drink drink and drink. My nurse even offered me a sandwich- and juice and some pop. Wow :) Anyways, in the end it didn't really have any effect on the contractions, and my cervix was still shut, thick, etc., so they let me leave.

On Wednesday, 35w6d, I had an appointment with my *favorite* midwife. She is awesome! She doesn't think that baby M will make it to her due date, which my midwives calculate 12/29 (for induction avoidance purposes only! another reason I love them...). She did my GroupBetaStrep test.. yuck. I've got my fingers crossed that it's negative, honestly. I'm taking acidophillus so I'm hoping that that keeps any bacteria at bay. She ALSO tried feeling for m's position. She did an internal to try and feel the head. M sort of un-dropped herself, so it's hard to tell butt from head. We *think* she's head down but she let me schedule an ultrasound for Monday to be sure.

This has all gotten me thinking- when would I be comfortable to birth (as opposed to deliver.. tee hee)? So, I'm kind of trying to figure out if I'd be comfortable at 36wks or not. I started my Evening Primrose Oil internally last night- and from what I noticed, it hasn't been as bad as I've read on forums and the like. I didn't wake up in an oil slick or anything- lol!

N, thxgiving, etc.
Yesterday was thanksgiving, we enjoyed ourselves. we went down to bedford park where my stepdad's brother lives and had dinner with them. my stepdad's brother's mother in law is awesome. she decorates for xmas like crazy- it's so beautiful! Nayeli saw the exterior decorations and was in *love* with them. the music, lights, colors- it was awesome. if it weren't so cold i'd have busted out the camera.
We then went home, and about 8pm-9pm we ate dinner with hubby's family. everything was good :] i just had to go downstairs though.... I was in alot of pain.
My poor hubby had to wake up at 3am (I woke him up at 3:15 though) to go to work. Stupid Black Friday!! He gets off in a few hours so I'm hoping to have the house clean so he can just go to sleep. My poor hubbs!

We've started co-sleeping. It's been 3 nights straight as opposed to every-so-often. N only had to go back to her bed once because the heat was crankin' and her room stays generally cool. She had seriously left a pool of sweat on my pillow! She was much happier in her room. Today though, she slept in, way longer than I. She's a pretty good sleeper too- she loves to cuddle with me. I think that if we continued this after M is born, we'll be fine. We fit 3-accross in our bed and m can go in the sidecarred crib which is just like being in our bed anyways.

I know there was something else to update on but I can't for anythign remember.

Saturday, November 21, 2009

35w2d

I am seriously unaware of the baby's position. Why is she hiding on me?

Thursday, November 19, 2009

35 weeks even!

I think I may have just began to win this ongoing battle with getting N down for bed. I woke up around 7, and she woke up about a half hour later. We had breakfast. She colored, played a bit, watched a little bit of *relaxing* TV, and I had a mini nap. Her TiTi (hubby's sister) woke me up with some food she had brought for us, so I got up, we ate, and I watched Caillou with her. After it was done (Caillou always says "bye!"), I explained that she had to take a nap and why. I gave her a few little kisses, took her and her pillow to her bed, and off she went sucking her thumb. After I closed the door she let out a few small whimpers but she was perfectly fine :) I'm wondering what time to wake her up though, since she went down at 1. I'm kind of thinking I want to do it at 2:30 or 3. That should give her a good two hours. Then I'll put her to bed at.... 9. Giving her 10 hours of sleep at night and 2 hours of a nap. Goodness I just created her new schedule via this blog :)

Next dilemma: What to make for dinner. SKIP.

Next dilemma: Where is the baby?

Well, obviously, she's in my womb. But- where. I'm thinking head down because of the pressure but I cannot always find the "hard ball". When I do cervical checks I can feel the contours of her head. I think I feel feet on my right side near my rib but I also feel them pretty low- so either she has two sets of legs or really long ones. I also don't feel the "butt" lump.

Strange.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

34w6d, Best Analogy of birth ever!

First off- I want to wish a happy 4th anniversary to my husband and I! And one year of marriage <3 <3


ANYWAYS, pulled from bellybaby.com, here's this:

Birth As A Bowel Movement
Imagine if you will, that about a hundred years ago, people began having great difficulties having bowel movements (BM for short). It all came about because of some very unhealthy lifestyles. People weren’t eating correctly because they were desperately trying to be thin and beautiful. They had malnutrition and took a lot of pills and other drugs to help them become and stay thin. People were so concerned with looking good that they put their health aside to get there.

As a result of this lifestyle, many people had a terrible time having BMs. Some people even died. Something had to be done to save these folks. So instead of changing their lifestyles, people flocked to the doctors to have their problem fixed. The problem became so prevalent that people became fearful of having BMs. Everyone dreaded going to the bathroom because of all the horror stories of pain and death. This normal, natural bodily function was labeled dangerous and hazardous and needed to be monitored and controlled to save lives.

Over time, it became the ‘norm’ to go the hospital whenever someone had to have a BM so that doctors could monitor the process and intervene if they needed to. This continued through the years and is still practiced today. An onslaught of new life-saving technology and machinery was invented for us in aiding people to have a BM. It has become such a common practice to go to the hospital to have a BM that people have become uninformed. They don’t trust their own bodies to have a BM on their own. People are scared to have a BM that having one anywhere besides a hospital is considered irresponsible, dangerous and risky. Even though the old, unhealthy lifestyles, which caused the problem in the first place are no longer practiced, having BMs is no longer considered a normal event. Even the healthiest of people go to the hospital to have BMs out of fear that something might happen. The go ‘just in case’.

So, you have to have a BM and even though you are a healthy man and having a BM is a normal, natural physiological function that your body was designed to do, we go to the hospital. We grab the hospital bag and head out the door in a hurry. During the car ride you get very tense because the cramps are coming on strong and you can’t get comfortable. You try breathing through them but this only helps a little with all the stop and go traffic and bumps in the road. Not to mention that you just wish you could be at home and have privacy. Upon arrival at the hospital, you are wheeled up to a room and instructed to put on a gown with nothing else on (it has a large opening in the back which will show you rear end if you get up and walk anywhere). You are told to lie down so that a nurse can examine you. Then a strange female nurse comes in and explains that she is going to have to insert 2 fingers into your rectum to check the progress of your feces. You obviously feel humiliated because someone you don’t know has just touched a very private and personal part of you.

Then the nurse straps a monitor to your belly to measure the severity of your cramps and stick an iv in your arm. This is very distracting and makes the pain of the cramps even worse. Soon, your cramps become stronger and you are getting very uncomfortable. At this point, the nurses change shifts and new nurse comes in. She says she needs to check you again since it’s been awhile and you don’t seem to be making any progress. She inserts 2 fingers again and shakes her head from side-to-side and gives you a very disapproving look. You have not made any progress. You want to try so badly to relax so you can make progress but with the iv, the strangers, the fingers in your rectum and the negative attitudes of the staff, there are just too many distractions and you can’t. By now your cramps are very painful and it takes all you’ve got to just stay on top of them.

The hospital team decides to insert a wire up your anus to determine if, indeed, your cramps are as bad as you say they are. They again insert 2 fingers to check the dilation and fecal decent. They tell you that if you don’t make any progress in the next 30 minutes, they may have to cut the feces out. This causes you to be even more tense and you have a hard time trying to relax just knowing what may happen if you can’t push it out yourself. After another hour of laying in bed, the female doctor comes in and does yet another exam with 2 fingers because he says he wants to be sure the nurses were doing it right. He feels it is time for you to begin to push. So you are in bed, flat on your back with your feet up in stirrups trying to have a BM and pushing with all your might while the strange nurse and a doctor intently watch your anus. The feces is not coming down fast enough so the doctor decides that your anus must not be big enough for the feces to pass through so they make a large cut in your anus to make it bigger. They also need to use a vacuum extractor to help pull the feces out.

You finally manage (with the help of a large cut and vacuum) to push the feces out. You are in a lot of pain, you’re bleeding, exhausted, spent and humiliated. You feel like something in your body is broken and didn’t work correctly. This must be true since you needed all this help for a normally natural bodily function right? The nurse then pushes on your abdomen to make sure all of the feces has been expelled. This is VERY painful but thank God you were in a hospital or else something bad might have happened. Someone stitches you up and are given instructions on how to aid your healing.

So, you made it through. You’re alive and that’s what really matters right? Is it though? What about your pain? What about the humiliation? What about the violation of privacy? What about the anger you feel towards the whole damn thing because your experience could have been completely normal and uncomplicated at home?

Now, this scenario is absolutely and utterly ridiculous right? It seems absurd to go to the hospital for something that could have easily, and much less painlessly, been done at home. The same is true of birth. This scenario is exactly what happened to birth (the ‘unhealthy’ habits were obviously a bit different) and many women are suffering, needlessly, as a result. I can attest to the fact that this scenario is VERY common in hospitals today – I have even experienced it with my own hospital birth.

People have been raised to fear birth and to think that it needs the medical community to make it happen. Birth interventions have become so common that people accept them, and every side effect that comes with them, as necessary for a good outcome. And most don’t believe it when someone tells them that it can be so much better if those things weren’t done routinely.

A healthy, informed woman who is knowledgeable in birth had just as slim a chance of dying in birth as someone does while having a BM. All you need to have a safe birth is to be informed and to listen to your instincts (something that is very difficult to do with people watching you – just like it is difficult to have a BM with people watching you!). Birth is safe and simple. Just like having a BM is safe and simple. I need as much assistance while birthing our children as you do while having a bowel movement

Monday, November 16, 2009

34w4d. GO TO SLEEP!

I think that toddler sleep regression and the terrible twos have hit our household at the same time. With a pinch of "mamitis". I hope she gets this out of her system before M is born. For three nights in a row, N has been the worst sleeper on this planet. The second I mention bedtime or naptime she flies up the wall and throws a tantrum. Day 1 she wanted to be with mama. So she ended up sleeping in mamas bed (or really, M's crib which is connected to mama's bed). Day 2, mama ended up laying with her in her bed. I was planning on staying until she fell asleep, but the baby's head was on my bladder, so I told N, "Momma has to pee, okay?" and she let me leave to pee. Day 3, last night, we had a big flip out all out crazy tantrum. First she was complaing about her closet so daddy had to get the nail gun and nail a sheet in the doorway so she couldn't see anything. Wonderful. That was ok. THEN, we put her in bed, and shut the door. She flipped and had an argument with the door, shouting her toddler obscenities at me.

an hour or more later, she gave up, went to her bed, and went to sleep.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

34w3d- We are in the 30s now...

...in terms of days left until my due date, that is! 39 days. I've been feeling alright, on and off contractions but nothing that worries me too much. Pololo gets home from work late today (they switched to holiday hours), so I'm going to nap, and then clean.

On a side-note, I got N some play food, and a mercer mayber book for xmas. I got M a wooden fish rattle as well. KidSurplus.com had Melissa and Doug & Haba at 20% off. As if they're not cheap as it is! :)

I scoured all over the place for an aweosme toy play kitchen for N. I'd like to get something that's a combo (sink & stove with oven, or something along those lines), but they're all downsized or not made with non-toxic stuff.... yeah. Then I was thinking of just getting the stove part, since she will have her play table and doesn't really need the sink yet. There are sets that come in parts- sink, stove, dishwasher... so I was thinking of that. Gotta do some more reasearch though. I know that I want it to be wooden and nontoxic. I wish we had time to work on our carpentry skills ;) Or I wish someone would offer to make one for her. But eh, I figure it is better to support eco-friendly toy companies.

Saturday, November 14, 2009

It's Christmas Shopping Time!

Oh, wonderful :)

So far, N's Christmas Presents are:
-Table with 4 folding chairs (like she really needs 4.. pfft. Ok. MAYBE tea parties are in our future!)
-Big bag of Legos Megablocks.

I've been racking my brain trying to figure out what to get her. I don't want to spend too much money, but I'd like to get her something that would be nice for her and her sister to play with in the long run. The table is in that category. I'm nuts for getting MORE blocks, but I couldn't pass up the offer. They were cheap ;)

I think I would like to get her a small wooden play kitchen. I found this one. The cheapest I can find it for is around $70. It is an "island" type kitchen. Complete with stove, sink oven, washing machine, and overhead microwave. On the reverse is a dry-erase board.. which won't get use until she's older for obvious reasons (I think the couch has seen enough marker for its lifetime).

If I go with that kitchen, I'd also like to get her wooden or crochet play food to go with it. Forget the plasticy crap- tried that last Christmas and all was disgusting or thrown away... either way, you get the idea ;) I'd like to keep the play food in the interest of wood, and crochet but only from a nice work at home momma on etsy or hyenacart.

Aside from that, I'm thinking maybe a few books and definately a stroller for her baby dolls.. MAYBE one more baby doll, but that's iffy. She needs the stroller though- I'm sick of her emptying her mini-hamper, putting her baby in it, and pushing it around the house. Really. Girl needs a stroller. Asap.

So.. that was my middle-of-the-night blabber on prospective Christmas gifts.

One more thing- I'm thinking of getting her a stuffed animal of a character from her favorite TV show- Wow Wow Wubbzy or Yo Gabba Gabba (why do these shows have names that are completely made up of non-words?). I don't know if it will do more harm than good though. I'm trying to wean her off of the shows (momma needed something to keep her busy during my icky-pregnancy-days where I couldn't tend to her as well as I should have been able to).

34w2d

Has it really been this long? Anyhow. Ummm.. nothing new to report :)

N has made bed and naptime hell. She decided this yesterday.

I started my Red Raspberry Leaf Tea yesterday. Vitacost doesn't have nettles in stock (still!) so I'm going to just do their pregnancy tea by Yogi Tea. I'm also gonna get some evening primrose oil for a little later on to soften up my cervix.

that's about it. fun update, huh? :)

Monday, November 9, 2009

33w4d

I couldn't come up with a title for this blog, let alone a clever one.

Today we took N to TotSpot. She enjoyed herself but was a bit on the shy side, not sure why because it was only family there. She went down the slide feet first on her belly all by herself- not sure if that was intentional or an accident, lol.

I've got to go grocery shopping. Probably going to do that when Jaime comes home from work. We just need a few things, though.

On a sidenote, I'm trying to wean N from sweets and juice. I cannot believe I've fallen into that trap. I'm trying to get myself off of them too, easier said than done. I figure if we have nothing in the house, there is no issue. The only "sweet" that I will allow her to have now is fresh fruit.. which we don't have any of because I ate the last apple. We've got veggies, carrots and broccoli. I'd like her to be able to eat whatever RAW though, because all of the vitamins and nutrients are kept in.

So that's about it, really. I'm washing diapers. Well, drying them. Debating on whether or not to take a nap or to prep M's fitteds. Eh.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

33wks even!

I ordered a few more birthing supplies tonight.

-Cord Clamps (for emergency.. I'm using a pretty tie otherwise)
-peri bottle (yeah. a must.)
-Placenta Out
-Shepherd's Purse
-5 chux (just in case the towels aren't enough)
-Red Raspberry Leaf Tea (3 boxes)
-Emergen-C (for my laborade).

Coming tomorrow: my towels (10 of em'... 30lbs!) and 2 dipes for N.
Coming later this week: my embroidery thread for the pretty cord tie (and maybe a mommy baby bracelet for n & i.

So I think I'm pretty well set. The best supply I have right now and will always have is my will and my faith in my body.

In addition, tonight I did fill up the tub to see how long it'd take. 10 minutes, about. 15 if the hot water starts to go cold. Not bad :) I also tried to gauge and see how high I'd have to fill it in order for it to cover my belly.. pretty good, and still extra room. I got into all kinds of birthing positions and found them extremely easy to do in the tub. That was a relief.

Currently, my concern is the baby's position. She was head down, and now i'm feeling a possible transverse lie.. so I'm hoping that if she IS sideways she doesn't stay that way. I'm also kind of thinking she's a bit diagonal and has her head in my left hip- not sure though.

Bedtime for me :]

Monday, November 2, 2009

32w4d - Preparing for Birth

So I've made my decision to have a freebirth. It has been something I've wanted to do for a while and I completely trust my body. I will clearly transfer to the hospital if something arises, but freebirth is what I'm doing.

I've got a small list of things that I'd like to get.. not 100% sure on everything, but this is my general list:

-Embroidery Floss for cord tie- going to make it pretty :)
-Cord Clamps in case of an emergency where the cord needs to be cut asap
-Sharp Scissors
-Gallon bag for placenta, I'm debating the smoothie. I might just save it to bury at a later date.
-Chux Pads. Like- 15 of em'.
-Towels. Not quite sure how many, depends on how cheap I can find them for. Maybe 10, but not in excess of that.
-Shower curtain or tablecloth
-Bowl for placenta
-Bowl for puke ;)
-various herbs for postpartum hemm. & retained placenta.
-peri bottle & some witch hazel.
Yep. 'tis it, for now, I think.

Sunday, November 1, 2009

32w3d - Happy November!

Today is November 1st, which clearly means... I AM HAVING A BABY NEXT MONTH!

I don't quite feel like blogging, so I'll leave it at that.